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Anger is Dangerous

I know I know, I’m late on the weekly photo challenges…this just caught my eye and I wanted to impart a little wisdom.  Anger is a dangerous thing.  It’s ok to feel angry at some situation, but when you hold onto that anger, that’s when it becomes stressful.  I’ll admit I still hold anger over certain situations in my past.  It’s hard to get over things but the best thing we can do is to release it.  Forgive. Become happier.



Murphy’s Law

(DISCLAIMER: This post is supposed to be an amusing post of the irony that comes into our lives.  It is not a post of complaints.  Things that make you shake your head and say ‘it would only happen to me’.)

There is a Law (a spoof on one of Newton’s Laws of Physics) called Murphy’s Law.  This law states that: anything the can go wrong will go wrong.

The whole idea for this post came from this particular experience:

I was in a friend’s wedding over the weekend and exactly 10 minutes before the ceremony was to start, I ended up pouring water all over the front of my dress.  I was not completely soaked…no, no…this was much worse.  I managed to make it look like I had just pee’d myself.  Excellent.  To make matters worse, after the groom was walked up by his parents, I (and a groom’s man) were the first to walk up, which meant I either had to go up like that or try to dry it off.

(Here’s the dress:)

Why So Serious?!

With the help of a fellow bridesmaid blotting my dress with a Kleenex, and the exclamations of “It’s not that bad!” and “It’s already drying!” from both her and the groom’s man that was walking me down my dress miraculously managed to dry with time to spare! And it wasn’t even noticeable! Whew!



I decided to try to think of other times that Murphy’s Law came into play (It’s harder than you think to go back and figure out times when this happened!):

It seems to be that the time you get a flat tire is either when you’re on your way somewhere and you’re already running late, or when you’re driving the 30 miles home from visiting family AND you have groceries in the car…not the packaged, non-perishable groceries, but the lettuce, fruit and pretty much the MOST perishable produce you could have bought.




A girl and her parents bring in their dogs for a few shots for the girls senior photos.  We were told one of the dogs was skiddish and uncomfortable with new surroundings so not to make any loud noises, etc.  So what happens?  I lean a ladder against a wall and the ladder decides that now is the perfect moment for it to fall for the first time ever and comes slamming to ground but not before it makes all the noise it can and hits multiple things on its way down.  Yep…only to me.

These few stories were the only ones that I could think of at the moment but I’m going to try to start keeping track of these things and hopefully this will be a long running topic!


Locks of Love

This past Sunday I did something that I am very proud of.  I donated my hair to Locks of Love.

The minimum length of hair they need for a wig is 10 inches.  It took me about 2 1/2 years to grow my hair as long as it was and it was still only 10.5 inches!

It was definitely a little bittersweet cutting off my hair because I did love the look of my long hair but I had to remember that it was going to go to someone who needed it more than I did.  My hair, that made me feel beautiful, would now be going to make a child feel beautiful…that made it worth it 🙂

Here we go!

Since there were no mirrors around I wasn’t able to watch the transformation process so once I saw myself, it was so strange!

My wonderful hairdresser, Dawn, who has been cutting my hair once I finally grew it (I was at least 2 years old before I had any hair!)

I love my new hair cut and it couldn’t have come at a better time (it was 85 degrees on Sunday!).

What’s the best thing about having short hair, you ask?  NOT HAVING IT GET CAUGHT IN THINGS!  Every time I put my purse over my shoulder I’d have to pull my hair out of it!  Every time I sat down I’d have to sweep my hair over my shoulder so I wouldn’t lean on it!

Close to $350 was raised for Locks of Love to help them offset the costs of making the wigs, not to mention the 8+ hair donations!

Even though I was able to cross this off of my bucket list, I know that I will be doing it again.  It’s such a great cause 🙂

Scam, Scam, Scam, Scam…SCAM! Wonderful SCAM!

I am SO SICK of all the scams that are going on out there.

My husband and I are currently in the process of finding another place to rent.  We’re looking for duplexes or homes but we’re on a bit of a tight budget.  So far, all but two of the places that I’ve found on Craig’s List have been scams.  What is with that?!

Usually the red flag goes off when they ask for your credit report and to click on the link that they’ve added in the email.  Well that’s pretty much a no brainer for me that it’s a hoax.  However, those have stopped being sent and now the emails that I’m getting back are from people who are ‘off doing God’s work in Africa’ and they’re going to be gone for several years so once I fill out the application they’ll send me the keys to the place. Oh, but I’m able to drive by it! HA!  It started off that you could spot the scams if they didn’t list the address on the post but now they’ve even started listing the address and having pictures of the place inside.  They’ve wised up, but I hope the public has too.

Poor Kid…

A person I work with’s Grandma actually had someone call and pretend to be her grandson.  The person calling was hysterical saying he’d gotten in a car accident and was in jail and the police wouldn’t let him get any medical attention.  He needed money for bail and even had another man acting as his lawyer talk to the Grandma.  She hung up the phone fully ready to go to the nearest Western Union and wire money but the only thing that made her stop was that the man on the phone called her ‘Grandma’ and she’s usually called ‘Noni’ or ‘Nona’.

It’s just awful the amount of scams that are around now.  The internet, while it’s brought us access to a vast amount of information and knowledge, has also brought more hoaxes and, it seems, more gullible people.

SWEET! All I need to do is put in my account information?! Totally worth it!

Every single time one of those (^) pops up, no matter what company, IT’S A SCAM! Don’t click on it.  There is never a  ‘maybe it’s real this time’. Every time it’s a scam.  EVERY TIME.

It just makes me really sad that people try to take advantage of other people.  What makes them think that they are able to skip getting a job and manipulate people and take their hard earned money?!  I understand they need money and they are probably desperate.  How can a person feel good about that?  How can someone find something that dark inside of them that would allow them to do this to another person?

I know this is going to sound like ‘duh’ advice but people are still falling for this crap so here it goes:

Never under ANY circumstances, give out your personal information (SSN, Account number, Credit Card numbers)  if you are not absolutely positive that they are who they say they are.  If you didn’t call them yourself, there is no way of knowing who they are.  It doesn’t matter if their caller ID says they’re Master Card and they say their Master Card.  Tell them you will call them back and then find their toll free number on the back of your card (or your statement) and call them from there.

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.  ‘Make $2000 a week from home!’  Sounds amazing, but so does super powers and flying just by flapping your arms.  That’s because, in this world, it’s NOT REAL.  I don’t care how bad you want it to be true, it’s not.  Don’t buy into it.

When renting or buying, if you can’t meet the person face to face don’t trust it.  This stems the scams from my rental experience of ‘I’ll mail you the key once I get your deposit’.  They will NOT mail anything to you once they get your money.

Most important of all…think logically.  The biggest and easiest way they get your money is by tapping into your emotions.  Advertisers do this all the time.

Just take it; just take all my money.

Why do you think those ASPCA commercials that Sarah McLachlan endorses are so effective?  Or the Christian Children’s Fund showing pictures of emaciated kids who don’t have enough to eat?  Because they were designed to do that.  Advertisers have found out that the most powerful tool is emotion (I should know.  I have a Bachelors Degree in Advertising).

The people who create these scams know this too.  Above all else, they want your money and they will do anything to get it.  They will act like all your money is gone; they will act like everyone you love is dying, they will act like the world is ending…whatever it takes to get your information.

That is why it’s so important to think logically about what is going on.  Put your emotions aside for just 5 minutes and think about the situation from all sides.  If it’s real, then do what you need to do.  But if it’s fake, you’ll be glad that you took the time to think about it.

The Better Business Bureau has a write up of the most popular scams here.  If you’re not used to scams, take a second and read it.  It could save you a ton of time and money. If you have any doubts, step back (or hang up the phone) and think; talk to someone you trust and see what they think.  The best thing you can do, is take just a few minutes to think about it. That’s what can make the difference between falling for a scam, and figuring out it is a scam.

Most importantly always remember to Do Unto Others.  Treat others as you want to be treated.

If You Think Reading is Boring, You’re Doing it Wrong

I’ve always loved to read.  Ever since I was little, I was able to immerse myself in a book.  I would get lost in this world; create pictures of it within my mind (that’s actually what I don’t like about movie versions of a book-the pictures look different than what I created).  I can loose all sense of time when I’m reading a book I really enjoy.

These are SO going to be my kids (at least I can only hope!)

There was actually one time in high school that I got into an argument with my English teacher over reading.   We were required to keep a reading log and write down the time that we started reading, the time we finished and how many pages (I guess to help prove that we actually read).  I really got into this one book (All Around the Town by Mary Higgins Clark) and I spent 6 hours one Sunday reading it.  When I got to class the next day and had my teacher check off on my reading log, he looked at me and said “Really?  I’m supposed to believe that you actually read for 6 hours?”  I was SO mad at him!  “Call my parents and ask them.  Do you really think that if I were trying to fake this that I’d write that down?!”  (Having helped many of my friends fake their reading logs I knew how to fake them without him knowing they were fake).  He begrudgingly signed off on it and never did call my parents but the point is, if I like a book, I’ll read it for as long as I can.  There are some days that I only stop reading because I’m starting to fall asleep and didn’t comprehend the last two pages!

My parents (especially my mom) always supported us reading and tried to get my brother and I to read as often as possible.  When we went shopping, my mom never had an issue spending money on books (as opposed to movies).  That is one thing that I obtained from my mom.  I never have issues buying books but always think longer about other purchases. Maybe one reason is that one of the biggest series of all time came out when I was 11 and continued to adulthood:

Harry Potter! My cousin and I actually had a competition on who could read this the fastest!

For some reason, things start to not be as cool during middle school/high school anymore.  Reading, unfortunately, becomes one of them.  It’s not cool to read books anymore; Cliff Notes are what we use for school and reading for fun is unheard of.  While the number of books I read on my own significantly dropped once I was in high school, I never stopped completely.  I was actually one of the best readers within my English classes, and had I not been so shy, I would have read out loud more.

I still think that reading is a very important thing and I feel it’s something that is lacking within my age group.  Video games have overtaken reading, and it’s sad to me.  I feel, video games close your mind, they don’t increase creativity or imagination.  They just have you search a different room and let you chose your weapon (will it be a machine gun or flame thrower?).

I can still sit for hours and read a book. In fact, it took me 4 days total to finish all 3 of the Hunger Games series (5 hours for Mockingjay).  The cool thing for me, too, is that if I really love a book, I will read it over and over again and still be just as enthralled in it as I was the first time.  That is another reason I tend to purchase my books.

Rarely do I ever get rid of a book, but that also means that I am very picky about the books that I do read.  If you’re having difficulty finding books that you want to read here are some of my favorites that I’ve read multiple times (by the way, these are just the ‘adult’ books. I LOVE kids books! Dr Seuss is still my favorite!):

One of my new favorites!

Love Harry Potter

The Time Travelers Wife By Audrey Niffenegger, The Horse Whisperer By Nicholas Evans, Girl With a Pearl Earring By Tracy Chevalier, A Dog’s Purpose By W. Bruce Cameron, The Other Boylen Girl By Phillipa Gregory

Another HUGE Favorite: Philip Pullman’s Dark Materials including: The Golden Compass, The Subtle Knife, and The Amber Spyglass.

Oh I also loved (and didn’t think I would) Water for Elephants by Sara Gruen (I’ve got an issue with the circus and I don’t like anything related to it but I was pleasantly surprised with this book).

There are books out there for everyone (have you been to a Barns and Noble recently?! They’re huge!) If you don’t like one, there’s not a rule that says that you have to finish it…move on to another.  All I can say is try it, you may be surprised at how much you like it!

And remember:

Just to Clarify

I just want to clear up a few things about yesterday’s post (What do you want to be when you grow up?)

The real reason I wrote the last post was because we ask that question all the time to high school seniors.  It’s more of a conversation starter than anything and most of them have no idea what they want to do with their lives (which is perfectly fine!) It just got me thinking about my life and all the things that I wanted to be throughout it.

I am not angry or mad at anyone.  I do not hold any grudges.  I was just stating things that happened within my life to give others an understanding.  That’s all I mean to do through this blog.  While I do have fun writing about whatever suits me, I also hope to inspire people or help them learn from my mistakes.  (Sometimes, too, people read a littledeepinto things which are not meant to be very deep (*wink wink* *nudge nudge* ‘say no more’)).

What I really should have done was not let others tell me that I could or could not do something with my life.  I should have said ‘screw it, if I want to do this, then I’m going to’, but I was a kid (under 10 years old kid).  So I don’t blame myself or anyone else.  I probably would have grown out of that phase on my own anyway.

For the most part, I feel that I don’t let others dictate what I should do.

In 5th grade, I was not picked to be in the advanced reading group even though I felt that I should be.  They were reading ‘Tuck Everlasting’ which I wanted to read too but was bascially told it was too hard for me so why even try.

Remember this book?!

So I basically told them ‘I’m going to read it anyway and I’ll show you’.  So I did.  My mom actually bought it for me from the Scholastic book thingy (thingy is the technical term by the way) that was handed out in class and then the books you had bought were given to you in class at a later date.  So that same 5th grade teacher (or reading teacher I dont remember now) who had told me I couldn’t read that book, was handing me that book.  I loved it!  It was one of my favorite books when I was young, and as far as I remember, I didn’t have any issues reading it.

So the moral of my story is, don’t let others dictate your life.  Live it for you.

What do you want to be when you grow up?

What do you want to be when you grow up?

Almost every time we were asked this as we were growing up, we had a different answer.

I can’t even count the times that I changed my mind throughout the years.

One of the first things I remember wanting to be was an artist, but was promptly told that artists don’t make any money so I turned my attention elsewhere (no body mentioned art fairs, and Etsy wasn’t around at that time).

Marine Biologist was a long time dream of mine, but then I got squeamish so that killed that dream.

My love of photography made me want to turn that into a career and I even had an aptitude test tell me that that’s what I should be.  During my first real photography class in high school I kept getting B’s and C’s back on my pictures (mostly C’s) so once again, I was back to the drawing board (figuratively because that doesn’t make money).

Psychologist was my next career choice.  I’d even made it my major in college but it was so difficult for me.  I’d had such a hard time retaining the material that I switched my major to advertising.  I found that I was good at it and it came easy for me so I figured that’s what I should be doing.

But in the three years since I’ve graduated, I feel like I don’t want to do advertising anymore.  I just don’t feel right about trying to sell a product that I don’t believe in, but that’s the job right?  You have no choice on the companies that want you to make an advertising campaign for them.  But how can I put all my effort into selling something that I know is harmful to people or unhealthy, etc?  I can’t do it.

So now, with a degree in advertising, I’m working at a photography studio that specializes in senior and family portraits.  I absolutelyLOVEmy job.  It’s a mix of office work, retouching, and studio assisting.

I just thought this was so funny and had to be included!

What is the point of this post?

Well, I look back at the dreams that I’ve had of what I wanted to be and I realize that because of others, I’ve changed my mind over and over.  I’ve let others dictate what I should do in life.

Being told that artists don’t make any money emphasized how important money was to that person and therefore should be to me.

Getting B’s and C’s (mostly C’s) back on my photography assignments was my teacher’s way of saying that he didn’t think I had the talent for it.

However, what one person finds beautiful, someone else my not…go to any art/craft fair and tell me if you love every single thing you see there, not gonna happen which shows that art, and life, are subjective.

Whatever my future children want to be in life, I want to support.  I don’t want to squash their dreams like mine were (even though I didn’t realize they were being squashed at the time).  If they decide one day they want to be a famous guitar player, and the next day it’s something else, well at least they’ll have a hobby.

So instead of having to figure out a specific thing that I want to do with my life, my new goal is to be happy doing whatever it is that I’m doing. I want to love what I do, no matter what it is.

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